Category Archives: Overcoming Bullying

Is Your Wife A Bully?

Women are perfectionists when it comes to relationships, and as much as they want, they have this sense of responsibility to handle almost everything. They feel that they have the power to control things and use them for their benefit. However, not all women consider themselves controlling and abusive. So how would you know if you married a wife that turns out to be a bully? Here’s what you need to know. 


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A Relationship With A Bully (The Effects You May Experience) 

A relationship is something that requires your full commitment. You have to consider a lot of things and make use of the factors that make you develop your well-being. But what if you have the kind of relationship that makes you feel anxious and depressed in a lot of ways? Then perhaps it’s time that you consider the signs that you need to get out of that kind of connection.  


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How To Deal With Workplace Bullies

One of the nastiest things about bullying is that it doesn’t only exist in schools, it also can take place in other places you never thought it would be.  And a great example of that is the workplace. Yes, you’d think since people are already adults they’re mature enough not to bully others. Well, you’re wrong. Bullies in the workplace are those who repeatedly criticize, embarrass, humiliate, and invalidate the achievements of their workmates.

“Bullying is a form of abuse,” says social psychologist Gary Namie, PhD, founder of the Workplace Bullying Institute and author of The Bully-Free Workplace. “It has a neurological impact, flooding your brain with hormones that impact your memory, decision making, and your emotional regulation.”

Have you encountered someone like this in your place? If so, then that person is a workplace bully.

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It Gets Better: How I Survived Bullying


One of the worst things about bullying is that it happens everywhere. I was bullied at school and even around the neighborhood for having a huge head and a thin body. I kept telling myself to ignore them, but they didn’t go away. In fact, I think I gave them more reasons to taunt me. The bullying went on for years, and it only stopped when I went away to college. But even though the bullies eventually went away, they left effects that I’m going to have to deal with for the rest of my life. It’s hard, and there were definitely times where I wished I would stop existing, but I didn’t give up. Even though the things they did to me left me having depression and anxiety, I didn’t let go. Now looking back, I would like to share some of the things I did that helped get through one of the darkest chapters in my life. I’m not saying that they will be practical for everyone, but they were for me so I am hoping that maybe I could help make things better for someone out there. And if you think you’re that person, read on.

Acknowledge What Happened

Ignoring your bullies will not make them leave; I learned that the hard way. Most victims of bullying follow the “ignore them” and “just stay away from them” methods, but those don’t work always.

“Clearly, ‘intent to harm’ starts us down the slippery slope—perhaps more slippery than imagined, for it not only involves the purported aim(s) of the bully, but the equally subjective determinations of that intent by bystanders and authority figures,” wrote Laura Martocci, PhD. “Their perceptions –the corresponding, discretionary counterpart of intent–undeniably guide any adjudication of claims to have been bullied.”

Sometimes you need to face the issue head-on so you can think of a solution or a way out of it.  That’s what I did, and it allowed me to make a plan on how to make things better.

Tell Yourself It’s Not Your Fault

It is essential. Never let yourself feel like you deserve the act of bullying. It is not your fault, it never was. Bullies target people who possess something they hate or want to have. They love the feeling of being in control so take that away from them. Be in charge of the things they make you feel. Never let yourself get defined by the things they tell you. You’re not the problem, they are.

Susan Heitler, PhD, asserts, “Do not minimize the incident.” She says that for parents, it is important to “[s]ay explicitly that what the bully did was not right.”


 There’s No Shame In Getting Help

I tried to fight the bullying alone, but I failed. If there’s one thing I indeed learned from the whole experience, that is that there is no shame in asking for help. Luckily, a couple of my friends and family were there to fight for me and put the bullies in their rightful place. Did the bullying stop? No, it did not, but it gets lessened because they know I’m not alone.

According to Miki Kashtan, PhD, “Those who have someone to talk with, even in the context of serious abuse, have far greater chances of managing their adult life in a way that works for them, even if nothing can be done to change the circumstances.” Don’t be afraid to ask for help, especially now that forces are working on making it more available for anyone who is getting bullied.

These are just some of the things I did that helped me survive to bully. It’s hard, but as long as you have the strength and hope that things will eventually get better, they definitely will. It’s a cliché, I know, but I’m going to say it anyway – hold on and you will get through it.

How To Balance Work, Life, and Relationship




If you feel that you are in a situation where you are ripping your hair out because of the stress building up from your daily life, and you don’t know what to do anymore, always remember that there are possible solutions that might help you get through with the struggle. It may not work for everyone, but it will inevitably create a positive impact on a person’s lifestyle. Here are some tips on how to balance your work, relationship with other people, and your personal life.

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I Never Thought I Could Become A Bully

There are times in our lives that we encounter bullying. Though we might think about how damaging it can be, there will be those days that we want to change the situation whenever we can.  It’s undeniably true that a person will want to have the ability to get things back on track and move forward with it. But the decisions we do can sometimes end up on things that shouldn’t happen.


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The Power Of Optimism



There will come a time in our life where problems and stresses will take over our subconscious level. Since our mind occupies a lot of different things, we might be able to have complications in dealing with our stressors. However, the power of positivity can make a validation on improving a person’s relationship, career, and life as a whole.

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How To Relieve Negativities Through Meditation


Going with the natural flow of life is cool. Your clients and bosses love your spontaneity and you accomplish and experience a lot of things without inhibitions. Despite that, this attitude also makes you susceptible to diverse forms of negativity, including disappointment, stress, pressure, and more.

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Counseling for Victims of Bullying

Most people will connect bullying as an event that occurs during our years in the playground of our youthful days. It is much more frequent to occur at school, but the truth is it can happen anywhere at any age. Bullying can be seen at work, home, school, or even on the internet. Continue reading

Depression Caused By Bullying


Bullying is indeed one of the leading causes of anxiety and depression among teens nowadays. There is too much tension in the emotional and mental aspects of kids who try hard to understand different societal norms. The impact of bullying is unsullied that it often leads to severe isolation and sometimes suicide attempts. But how does bullying relate to mental health issues? What are the triggering factors that can identify its existence? Is there a way to address bullying situations that lead to depression?

It Creates Physical, Emotional, And Mental Torture

Bullying comes in many forms. But regardless of its ways, it always ends up in severe overall damage. There are cases that the act can immensely harm someone physically. It causes bruises and wounds, and sometimes fractures or long-term injuries. On the emotional aspect, it creates an explainable fear or trauma that sometimes leads to isolation. And for mental health impacts, it damages psychological balance where most victims become open to self-harm and suicide attempts.


“Previous studies have found a link between bullying and a higher risk of mental health problems during childhood, such as low self-esteem, poor school performance, depression, and an increased risk for suicide,” explains Dr. Andre Sourander, a professor of child psychiatry at the University of Turku in Finland 

One of the triggering factors of bullying starts with individuals’ being different. It is where they think, dress, look, speak, differently than the rest. Other people view them weird or unusual because of their behavior and responses. These individuals appear judged, condemned, and unaccepted because they are not like everyone else. With that particular instance where people point out their unique personality, these bullied ones feel upset about themselves. Eventually, it becomes a case of social anxiety and clinical depression.

Honestly, there is no way to address bullying when the victims can’t identify their weak points. If these individuals never learn to stand up for themselves, they will never escape the continuous torment and agony of such act. Yes, battling with all the emotional and mental torture is not easy. But these bullied individuals must understand that it is the only way. Because being afraid is not an option here. What these bullied people need to do is to gain back their confidence no matter what. Because if they don’t, they will end up miserable for the rest of their lives. They will forever become a victim of an act that never promises to stop.

“Because adults often are not there to observe it, we need the kids to be the ones to stand up and say it’s not okay,” Kelly Lyn Mulvey, Ph.D. says. “It sounds like a scary thing to do. But peer intervention really works. Speaking up and standing up to bullies tends to reduce the attacks.”


Mental Health Matters

Bullying may be a physical or cyber act, but its goal looks forward only to one thing – emotionally and mentally hurt others.

“(Our study) calls attention to just how serious bullying can be, and it reinforces what we’ve been learning, which is that bullying is not just a rite of passage, it’s not just part of growing up and all kids experience it and they’re stronger for it,” Dr. Mark Schuster said.

So instead of accepting it as part of the societal norm, people should learn to figure out how to eradicate its existence. Yes, the process can take a long way because people seem to get used to it. However, it is not an excuse to make others feel miserable and hopeless just because they are weak or different. Everybody deserves to have a stable mental and emotional state, so bullying should be out of the picture. But to be able to do that, people must learn to understand the importance of fighting their own battles with or without the chances of winning it. Because in the end, winning is not everything. Sometimes the fight itself is more than enough to tell the world that bullying is depressingly unacceptable.