Experiencing breakup from the one you think spending a lifetime is worth the wait can be stressful. Overcoming this emotional feeling depends on how you really love that person and understanding the reasons why you split up.You may end up crying, questioning yourself and wondering what happened to both sides.
It can be painful because you will still remember the memories and realize that it is really hard to be alone especially when you used to spend a lot of time with him. The act of deleting photos, blocking social media accounts, and throwing things you have received from him are common ways to ease the pain.However, you can’t control the brain from recalling the moments between the two of you since it’s hard to forget and it will take time to overcome the stress.
Talk to your close friends
Irena Milentijevic, PsyD, says, “One of the best ways to deal with the pain of a break-up is to share your feelings with friends or family- people you trust. The simple process of identifying and talking about your feelings is very soothing.”
Sharing your problem is one of the ways to overcome the stress. You have to listen to your friend’s advice in order to reduce the uneasy feeling in your heart. Telling them the reasons and listening to their point of views can calm your mind. You will realize that you only let go of an important person in your life, but you’re not completely lonely.Your good friends love you unconditionally and will cheer you up to live happily again. With them, you’ll realize that living in this world is still amazing. Start appreciating friendship. Hang out with your friends and learn to accept that things are different than they were before.
Discover new adventures
Stay away from your comfort zone and try great adventures.Being a workaholic is not an answer to forgetting the problems that you have. You must learn to make new friends and travel to different places.
Jeanne Segal, PhD, Gina Kemp, MA, and Melinda Smith, MA, wrote, “A divorce or breakup is a beginning as well as an end. Take the opportunity to explore new interests and activities. Pursuing fun, new activities gives you a chance to enjoy life in the here-and-now, rather than dwelling on the past.”
Travelling can be a great help in overcoming stress, and you will realize that life is enjoyable without him. With this, you will slowly learn to forget the heartaches, and you can see yourself being happy again.
Learn to let go
Getting stressed because of the recent breakup means that you are still hoping for things to settle. Expecting that your ex-lover will apologize and ask you to come back can cause heartache. Remember to slowly reflect on the positive sideof why the relationship didn’t last long and consider some of your shortcomings. Don’t focus on the negative side – it will just bring you down. You should figure out how to fix an existing problem. If you are not for each other, just remember that there is someone better for you.
John M. Grohol, PsyD, emphasizes, “Things don’t disappear on their own. You need to make the commitment to “let it go.” If you don’t make this conscious choice up-front, you could end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from this past hurt.” It’s really hard to end the relationship that you treasure the most that is why you need to have enough courage to let it go.
You have to let go of what’s inside that heavy heart in order to move on and see the bright side of breaking up. Just remember that life is beautiful and you can live with or without him. It’s a matter of how you accept the situation and how you deal with it.