Health And Counseling: The Truth About Anger

We know it is normal to get angry and upset because sometimes stressors are difficult to bear. We have those moments where we find the world a little uncooperative, and that makes us feel uncomfortable. At times, we endure those pushes that leave us off the edge. There is just too much pressure, and we start to lose our minds. At some point, we validate our rage and believe that it fits at the moment. Thus, we impulsively act out and tend to become very irrational. We would let anger take over our ability to think clearly and create better decisions. It shuts down our sense of consideration towards things like tolerance and compassion.

But the danger of giving in to anger doesn’t stop there. Frequent times, when we get upset, we couldn’t handle it. It is as if we know we have to let all the raging emotions out. Because if we don’t, we know it can cause a lot of trouble than usual. That could lead us to a deep end where nothing will seem okay. We become preoccupied with anger that we didn’t notice it ruining our lives.


Angry Than Hurt

Most of us can instantly tell the exact reason for our upset feelings. Usually, we get angry because of petty things like not getting what we want, people breaking their promises, hearing negative things about us, small disturbances, etc. The angry feelings we believe caused by unfortunate situations are sometimes not all that there is. In unfortunate conditions, our anger represents our deep sadness and emptiness that we cannot simply express. It is as if we only rely on anger so that we can hide our fears and pain. Let alone deal with it silently.

Over-Blown Sense Of Importance

The funny thing about anger is that usually, it gets a little over the edge, especially when we desire immediate validation. That is even if we are not entirely angry at the situation or there is no reason to be upset at all. Anger has this huge attachment to the statement “I believe I am right” that we hold on to for quite too long. We are somehow focused on one-way thinking that we deserve to be angry because things are not going our way.

Fear-Induced Reaction

While most of us understand that anger is quite a normal reaction to something upsetting, some use it to take advantage of the situation. People with a complicated mindset often feel the need to be angry because it brings them closer to achieving what they want. Regardless of the motive, an angry reaction often leads the other individuals to raise their flags. Anger somehow connotes a fear-induced reaction that supports aggressive behavior towards others.


Unrealistic Perfection

Usually, when we get angry, one reason is that our expectations did not go our way. We have this specific preference for things that, when it turns out negatively, become overly frustrated. It somehow makes us drawn to perfection that we know is impossible to get. And since we do not lower our standards, our disappointments go up. So when we fail, we become out of control and infuriate. That is the problem because anger holds into our deepest desire for perfection, and eventually, it will start controlling us.

An Unknown Trap

Though it is often common, anger is quite unnecessary to many things. We somehow think that it is significantly important to release the unwanted rage we have. Thus, we yell and shout at others when things are getting out of hand. Somehow, we got by and thought that it is okay since people are used to the aggressive response. Unfortunately, some of us get caught up with anger and give in to its negative impact. That explains why we spit out unnecessary words, humiliating statements, and poor judgment towards others. Anger traps us into a situation where we talk insensitively and act stupidly, and these are things that often make our apologies unacceptable.

It Ends Things

An angry emotion is known by many but understood by few. Some of us can let things go and forget about an angry person’s stupid and insensitive actions. However, some cannot accept it. These individuals take the angry behavior seriously, so they choose to back off and stay away for good. Anger breaks a relationship and even ends it forever. It sets up a barrier and limits both sides to look into reconciliation perspective. Once anger taps into the emotional imbalance, everything becomes a notable source of disconnection.


Final Thoughts

Learning to control our angry emotions, letting go of things we can’t handle, accepting the truth, and moving on are things that are sometimes incredibly difficult to do. However, if we put our mind and heart into bringing inner peace, we might stop the rage at some point.


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