Women are perfectionists when it comes to relationships, and as much as they want, they have this sense of responsibility to handle almost everything. They feel that they have the power to control things and use them for their benefit. However, not all women consider themselves controlling and abusive. So how would you know if you married a wife that turns out to be a bully? Here’s what you need to know.
If you are in a relationship that makes you feel an extreme pressure because your wife screams, yells, and curses at you all of the time, then consider it a toxic relationship. She probably is a bully. “Common signs include a lack of empathy for the victim; anger; demanding and selfish behaviour; destructive patterns when dealing with conflict; and an emotional climate marked by hot and cold,” according to clinical psychologist Angelica Bilibio.
Most men don’t want to admit that they are in an abusive relationship because they think about what other people would say regarding masculinity. However, almost a lot of men are experiencing an emotional struggle because their wives are controlling. They become more aggressive and irrational every time they don’t get what they want.
Uncontrolled Behavior
A bully wife often uses emotional intimidation as a way of dominating their husband. She often resorts to verbal assaults that target a man’s emotional weakness. She also uses threats to instantly achieve her goals of wanting him to do whatever she wants. She doesn’t consider her partner’s feelings and disregards his opinions. She criticizes his actions and sees no good about them. Then she starts humiliating him by exaggerating his flaws. The more she achieves the power, the lesser she will consider.
The problem arises when the wife has endless amounts of demands. It includes a list of things that somehow is impossible to accomplish that no matter how hard a man would try and give it to her, it is always never enough. A bully wife will expect his husband to constantly put her first before anything else and attend to her needs. She hates excuses even if it’s reasonable.
Most of the time, a bully wife is unnoticeable. Men accept the norm that women are just trying to compel with their needs that’s why they allow them to act that way normally. Chantal Gautier, C.Psychol wrote, “[T]he person affected might not realise they are being bullied. If your self esteem has been crushed, you may end up blaming yourself, thinking you are worthless and even justify being bullied – not realising you are actually being abused.”
However, most committed men are actually in a no-win relationship situation, and women normally get away with it. A bully wife is good at gaslighting. It is a psychological abuse where she manipulates the situation and turns it against her husband. Sad, but true.
Everything Is Only About Her
A wife that doesn’t consider she is a bully is actually the one who knows she is. She becomes unpredictable that her husband will never figure out when she’ll stop.
“Because you can’t predict her responses, you become hypervigilant to any change in her mood or potential outburst, which leaves you in a perpetual state of anxiety and possibly fear,” said Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD. In wore cases, sometimes she never does. Accusations are intolerable, sensitivity is enraged, and selfishness is a top priority.
It’s not applicable to say that your wife may be experiencing a mental issue. However, the situation where she constantly bullies you can completely create a traumatized response which in some ways will never be good in a relationship. You’ll have a perpetual state of anxiety and depression if you leave the behavior unassisted. Always consider to reach out and seek help when you feel like your wife is becoming a bully.